Wanna know a secret? I actually LIKE spending time with DadingWITHOUTanxiety! If you have little spawn running around the house, you know that spending time with your spouse and having kids don’t mix. They can smell when you’re about to have an adult conversation and choose that exact moment to be thirsty, to poop their diaper, or ask a life or death question they absolutely HAVE to ask you right this minute. If I had a dollar for every time I had to restart a sentence, I could hire a nanny and we could actually have some peace.
I find that in the hustle of school and work, dog training classes and swimming lessons, between grocery store trips and activities and the endless EXHAUSTION that is parenting- that weeks will go by without us really spending any quality time together. Sometimes it feels like we are ships passing in the night. We sneak a snuggle in here and there, a sarcastic comment that is over the kids’ heads to make each other laugh. Sometimes just holding hands in the car is all we get for the day.
Our village is small, and babysitters are so expensive (on top of the debilitating cost of preschool), so it can be really hard to do something simple like going to the movies, or going to dinner. The nicest thing you can do for a parent is offer to watch their kids so they can go out together- something we do for all our friends because we know what it’s like to need it ourselves. We love our kids, but to have a healthy marriage we need time with each other without them.
This weekend is our 7 year wedding anniversary/13 years dating and we are going on a long weekend vacation! Yes we will still FaceTime Biggie and Smalls every night because I’m sure we will miss them (Stockholm Syndrome is real people), but the thought of sleeping in and doing absolutely, gloriously NOTHING has been keeping me going these last few weeks.
I’m sure we are not the only ones who definitely need to spend more time together. I’m curious as to what you all do to spend time with your SO? Drop me some suggestions 🙂