I’ve had this potential blog topic written down for a while, but since it is Pride Month, I thought it was fitting. There are so many things that we have to teach our kids that I feel like our parents didn’t have to worry about. The world is a bigger and more diverse place- or maybe the world is the same but freedom of expression is more prominent and tolerated than it was back then. I’ve already blogged about consent and other things like that, but another big one is the LGBTQ community.
We teach our kids to love, and embrace those that are different from us. That what’s on the inside is what counts. We haven’t yet really had the talk with Biggie about how boys can like boys and girls can like girls, but it’s something that is coming.
A few months back, a boy in Biggie’s class wanted to wear a dress, or was wearing one, and Biggie got upset. He told him that boys don’t wear dresses. Our response to him was that if the boy wants to wear a dress he can, and it’s ok. Biggie already knows that pink isn’t for girls, and blue isn’t for boys. He knows colors are for everyone.
It’s so important to us to have tolerant kids. I don’t want my kids to have to learn it later in life, like I feel like I had to. My upbringing wasn’t necessarily as diverse or tolerant as I feel it could have been, and I am proud of where I have come. I want acceptance to be a natural part of their lives. It’s important to us that they feel comfortable in their own skin and their own opinions.
One day Biggie is going to ask the question, and I want to be prepared with the answers. I have good examples for them of what non-heterosexual love looks like, and I hope that helps them understand, as it did me when I was younger. I want them to feel as I do- that the world has a lot of hate in it, and love is love, no matter what it looks or doesn’t look like.
I am nervous about explaining it to them. I feel the weight of the important teaching moment, and how it will help mold the type of people that turn out to be. All we can do is lead by example and trust that when the time comes, we will be ready.
Have any of you had that talk with your kids? I would love to know the details, so drop me a message 🙂